Song Bath with the Threshold Choir

This program was offered by the Hospicare Threshold Choir of Ithaca on February 21, 2021.

The choir members are volunteers at Hospicare. Our volunteers provide assistance to patients and their families in a variety of ways, and for Threshold Choir members that way is through music. Other Hospicare volunteers offer companionship, respite for caregivers, light housekeeping, and assistance with shopping. This is done in the patient’s home setting or our 6-bed residence on East King Road in Ithaca.

The Hospicare chapter of the Threshold Choir was started in 2017 by Jayne Demakos, then director of Hospicare’s Music Program. Threshold Choir as an organization was founded by singer/songwriter Kate Munger in 2000, and now has over 150 chapters worldwide.

Threshold Choirs sing for people at the threshold of life as well as for their families and friends, in private homes, nursing homes, assisted living facilities, hospitals and hospices. The choir sings in groups of 2 to 4 singers using the instrument that we all have, the human voice, to share songs of comfort and caring. 

Members of the choir are not performers. The choir sings to people who may have different levels of attention and different needs. They may sing softly and gently to someone who has fallen asleep or someone might sing along with us, requesting songs that have special meaning for them. The Threshold Choir does their best to honor wherever they are on their journey.

Since bedside singing is not currently possible, Hospicare’s Threshold Choir is exploring creative ways to share their voices and presence. The Song Bath focuses on sharing the joy of singing and promoting a feeling of well-being and ease.

We invite you to sit back or lie down, close your eyes, if you would like, and be bathed in songs that soothe the soul.

We hope that you enjoyed listening to our talented choir and that it brought you peace and a sense of calm during this crazy time in the world. Thank you to all the singers for letting us into their homes and for showing us what magic they can bring to someone in need.   

If you are interested in the Threshold Choir please contact Wendy Yettru at 607-272-0212 or

Best wishes Jayne Demakos

Hospicare wishes Jayne Demakos much joy and happiness as she embarks on a new adventure – and her dream job as a full time music-thanatologist! Jayne will be providing her beautiful harp music to patients and families at St Peter’s Hospital in Olympia, Washington.  So many Hospicare families have benefited from Jayne’s music and compassion for many years, and she will be sorely missed by our community. Best wishes to you, Jayne!

Playing for the Dying: A Poignant Journey and a Sacred Experience

When people learn that I play therapeutic harp for Hospicare’s patients, they are often surprised. Usually they imagine the music is a performance or entertainment. The truth is that the music I play at patients’ bedsides uses the latest understanding about how sound affects human physiology. Its purpose is to help patients cope with end-of-life physical and emotional distress. There are often no recognizable tunes. As I play, I tailor my playing to uniquely support each patient.

 I am a certified harp therapist and a candidate for certification in music thanatology (music for the dying) with the Music Thanatology Association International. That means I have professional training in the special needs of the dying. I also follow a long tradition that has been implicitly understood by mothers the world over: music offered with love is a kind of human medicine.

Usually I visit patients in their houses, but I will also play in hospitals and skilled nursing facilities—and, of course, at the Hospicare Residence. Research has shown that the sound of the harp acts upon the human parasympathetic nervous systems. It can lower our heart rate, breathing rate, blood pressure and the level of a stress hormone called cortisol. When this happens for a dying patient, they become calmer and more restful. Often their physical symptoms, such as pain, restlessness, agitation, sleeplessness and labored breathing, improve. 

When I’m playing, I use the elements of music to address certain symptoms. For instance, by working with tempo and rhythm I might ease distress of a patient who is having problems breathing. I determine what will help a patient from moment to moment as I play. 

The sound of the harp can also help patients suffering from emotional or spiritual distress. That’s what happened with a patient named Debbie. Debbie had a lot of spiritual conflict that was causing her anxiety and fear. I played for her many times over the course of weeks, and each time she would become calm and contemplative as I played. Then Debbie’s health declined sharply, and her family called me in to play for her in her last hours. She had been unresponsive, yet as I entered the room, she smiled when they told her I was there.

I played while Debbie took her last breaths, then continued to play for her family members who were gathered. Her passing was calm, and her family members later told me they felt the music gave her permission to die. I don’t know what she really felt, but her family was sure the music helped her with the death process and eased her spiritual fears, and that helped them feel at peace, too. 

Helping ease the distress of patients like Debbie and her family members is why I do this work. Playing for the dying is an amazing and often poignant journey. It is a very intimate, sacred experience, especially in the final hours. There’s a sense of time stopping at those moments. You’re not in the world’s time—you’re not where time is measured by appointments and all the other daily minutiae. Something mysterious is happening that’s not graspable, and we are following it, perhaps like a midwife might follow the delivery of a baby. 

As a musician, working with the dying is some of the most profound work I do.

This article originally appeared in our Hospicare print newsletter in the spring of 2016.